She is avoidant if there was genuine early warmth that pulled back right as the connection deepened, and she is just not interested if the effort was low and flat from the beginning with no warm phase to point back to.
Dealing with an avoidant partner means responding to their distance with calm, non-pressuring presence, because pressure is the one thing that reliably triggers their pullback.
The two types of avoidant attachment are dismissive avoidant, who feels self-sufficient and sees closeness as unnecessary, and fearful avoidant, who craves closeness and fears it at the same time.
Avoidant attachment is a relationship pattern in which a person manages the discomfort of intimacy by keeping emotional distance, staying self-reliant, and withdrawing when things get serious.
